May 11, 2010

Why are people mean?

I've been reading Alice Dogruyol's column - Big girl in a skinny world - in The Daily Mail for a while now. I find the columns funny, witty and most of all I recognise myself in what she writes about. Those little things you think about as a big girl in a skinny world. How to find a pair of jeans that hide what you want to hide and show what you want to show. The perfect dress for wedding. Or how she felt after the amazing accomplishment having done London Marathon (reading that column actually made me cry).

What amazes me each time after reading the column is the comments. All comments are about that she's fat, need to stop whining and lose some weight. Because "losing weight is easy – you just eat less and exercise more". I find the comments both rude and nasty. Don't people have anything better to do? I know this is all part of Social Media and web 2.0 and so on, but for God's sake get out of the sandbox and keep the level of discussion on a more civil level.

Alice Dogruyol's writing style is quite ironic and a bit cynic which might come off as both whiny and self-centred, but it's all done in good spirit. As a big girl in a skinny world you learn very quickly to be both ironic and witty, especially in your teens if you want to survive.

I've been big, been skinny, been big, been skinny and now big again. Trust me, no matter what people say you're treated differently as skinny and because of that you feel better about yourself. When gaining weight again you know very well what's wrong with you, and surprise, surprise your self-esteem plummet. When you finally do understand that size really doesn't matter, that you can do whatever you set your mind to and are worth all the the love in the world, small minded and bigoted people tell you you're fat and need to lose weight. Mind you own business! You haven't got a clue what you're talking about until you've been a big girl in a skinny world yourself.

1 comment:

Who Gives? said...

Excellent post and spot on!